I recently had an “off” day – you know the ones where you feel unmotivated, sad, annoyed, unloved, overworked and underpaid etc. We all have different ways of coping with these days when they rear their ugly heads.
I realised recently that when I am having an off day I often look outwards for something to make me feel better – a colleague, friend, family member, stranger, comfort food – whatever it may be, I often seek stimuli beyond my control to make me feel better.
On this particular day, it made more sense to focus on something I could control. So I looked inwards. I reminded myself that I was there for me. Even though I felt that no-one was on my side, I realised that I was on my side. The voice with which I think to myself was kind to me and accepting of my feelings. It suggested to me that the day that was presented in front of me was most likely created by my own feelings of loneliness, lack of sleep, self doubt and lack of motivation. It was comforting to know that, without having to outwardly seek reassurance and acceptance, I could be reassured by myself.
In the wise words of writer James Altucher “You will never be lonely if you enjoy being with the person you are alone with”.
Mike Skinner has a similar realisation in the second half of The Street’s song “Empty Cans”, that everyone is walking their own path and watching their own backs, you can’t rely on other people to solve your problems.
Once I had acknowledged my ill feelings, I rode out the storm and did my best not to project my mood onto the rest of the world around me. I trusted in the knowledge that the feelings were temporary and that they would pass, and they did.
Thank you to the little voice inside my head.